Have you heard this expression when someone is telling you that they support you no matter what? Perhaps you have said it to someone also. I have said it to a friend when they are going through a tough time and they need some support. Some say it is an old military idea referring to someone covering you when you are in the heat of battle.
Another reference suggests that ancient Greeks or Romans would fight with their armored breast plates on, but they would lean back to back on each other while fighting the enemy to protect each other. You get the idea.
What does it feel like when someone has your back? Having been through a rough few weeks recently, it was a comforting experience to know and feel that my friends in my community had my back. When my life got challenging, those who know me and my family were there in a moment to pick up the slack. Wow did that feel good!
Here is little exercise to feel in your body what it is like to literally have someone’s back.
Find a partner to share this experience with. Sit on the floor or on a stool so that you can be back to back. Get comfortable in your seat – on the stool or floor. Make sure your partner is ready and then agree to lean back on each other. Start slowly. Lean back a little, breathe deeply, let go and then lean a little more.
Take several more deep breaths all the way down into your belly. Allow yourself to be held up. Try leaning your head on the other persons head. Or put your head on their shoulder. Allow the muscles in your back to relax. Be quiet for a minute two. When you agree, sit up and face each other. Discuss what that experience was like.
It can feel really comforting to have a bodily experience of someone having your back. Let me know what that was like.