Grief: The In Between Place

When a dear one dies, our life is changed forever. We deeply miss them.  Our hearts are breaking. In the days and months ahead, the grief can be transformed -slowly. Step by step, minute by minute, hope and light reappear. The in between place is that state between the old life before our loss and the new one we want without the pain. It can be a tough spot. Taking the time to daily celebrate the one we miss, helps our healing.

My friend, Carol Calkins, recently lost a dear friend after a lengthy battle with cancer. She wrote the poem below, in honor of her friend. Carol calls this friend her hero and one of the most courageous women she knows. I was at a gathering of some of her friends when Carol read the poem. She dug deep into her loss and found some jewels.

What I love about people who dig deep into themselves when they have a big loss, is that beautiful light and inspiration emerges. Carol took her pain and turned it into a poem. Now this poem is bringing radiance to those who get to read it. Kindling the luminous points of loss, lessens the veil between here and beyond.

Heaven and Earth

The line between heaven and earth is a translucent veil
not unlike the predawn glow changing with a blink into full sunlight

The line between winter and spring is but an instant
with new growth blooming into life before our eyes

The line between fear and bravery is a moment of choice
facing challenges with hope, strength and love

The line between people’s hearts is a precious connection
lasting forever and a day and touches the essence of the Universe

The line between sorrow and joy is a blur
sweet memories of what was creating a smile of happiness

The line between disharmony and peace is only temporary
for peace is a natural state for all spiritual beings

The line between human being and spiritual being is non-existent
for we always have been and will be pure spirit and radiant light.

Original Poetry by Carol Calkins, 2018, in honor of her B.B.

Thank you, Carol, for sharing your writing with us. Loss is never easy. But it is often filled with unexpected blessings. And thank you,  readers for sharing your experiences with loss.

Christine J. Harris, M.S., L.M.F.T., C.B.T.

Christine J. Harris, M.S., L.M.F.T., C.B.T.

Christine Harris is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Licensed Massage Therapist and Certified Bioenergetic Therapist in Littleton, Colorado. Her specialty is embracing all of you: body, mind, and spirit in the therapy process. She has extensive post-graduate training in Bioenergetic Psychotherapy, a body-centered form of counseling. Contact her about your life’s adventures, misadventures, and desire for a more vibrant life. Email: [email protected] Phone: 720-727-2500.

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