How Do I Get Off the Crazy Busy Highway?: The Road to Calm

How Do I Get Off the Crazy Busy Highway?
The Road to Calm

What are some ways we can exit the crazy busy highway of our lives? Maintaining focus and peace of mind in the midst of a busy day can be challenging sometimes. On one recent Monday I found myself dealing with a new computer that wouldn’t connect to my Wi-Fi network, a dog that was really sick, windshield wipers that wouldn’t work, my daughter called to say she just got a flat tire and I ran out of my favorite coffee.

What to do?

Any one of these things are not a big deal. In fact, on any given day several events like this happen for most of us. What makes that difference between having none of these things bother us and having them all seem like crises?

The road to calm can be found by hurrying up to slow down.

What do I mean by this?

When our brain starts tracking that things are building up we go into anxiety mode. We quit breathing, we lose our focus, our muscles tighten and we begin to push ourselves to go faster. So we need to learn to recognize we are in the old panic, overwhelm loop and put on the brakes.

How Can I Do This? Take these three steps:

1. Stop what you’re doing for 3 minutes. Disconnect from your phone, computer or situation either physically or mentally. Take 3 deep breaths.

2. Look inside. Sit down in a comfortable chair, close your eyes, and scan your body head to toe. When you find a spot – your neck, back or stomach, for example, that is tight, let it relax.

3. Find your center again. Close your eyes. Put one hand on your chest and one on your belly. Take 3 slow breaths with this count: Breathe in to a count of three, hold your breath for one, exhale for three, hold for one.
Repeat this three times; or more if you want.

After doing this you should feel your level of anxiety or stress decrease.

The more you practice this the more you will recognize the signs of going into overwhelm. And when you start to recognize them you can short circuit them by taking the 3 steps above to return to calm.
Now you know where the exit to calm is. Happy Driving.

Christine J. Harris, M.S., L.M.F.T., C.B.T.

Christine J. Harris, M.S., L.M.F.T., C.B.T.

Christine Harris is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Licensed Massage Therapist and Certified Bioenergetic Therapist in Littleton, Colorado. Her specialty is embracing all of you: body, mind, and spirit in the therapy process. She has extensive post-graduate training in Bioenergetic Psychotherapy, a body-centered form of counseling. Contact her about your life’s adventures, misadventures, and desire for a more vibrant life. Email: [email protected] Phone: 720-727-2500.

1 Comment

  1. Lora on September 20, 2018 at 8:31 am

    Thank you . Hadn’t gone to your website in months….
    Yesterday was a particularly stressful day with unexpected, anxiety producing events coming in from left and right. As today begins, I will try to disconnect for 3 minutes and breathe. Definitely needed the reminder at this point in time. Thank you!

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